No matter who we are, we are all searching for rich, satisfying lives. Often, we search high and low, near and far, putting our money and time into anything that promises a reward. But, we might be overlooking a treasure that is right in front of us. It’s what makes our house a home: our family! What can help us to unlock this very fulfilling dynamic? Consider three things that can, at the very least, help us get started.
- Show gratitude – The Harvard Mental Health Letter reports that “gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.” Set a goal to not let one day pass without expressing gratitude in some way towards others in the home. This can be a kind word, a simple gift or simply let your imagination run wild and dream up endless possibilities.
- Eat a meal together as a family – The old tradition that has long since gone by the wayside was effective for a reason: it brought everyone together. The book The Surprising Power of Family Meals asserts that "family supper can be a bulwark against the pressures we all face everyday". Using mealtime as a way to build (or in some cases, re-build) trust and warm relationships with our family members will be certain to help our house become a home. Use it constructively to build brick by brick as it were a solid base on which to enhance relationships within the home.
- Disconnect from the outside world – There are many great advantages when it comes to technology. However, a lack of actual human interaction often is the side effect; we stop being social creatures. Whether we describe ourselves as casual but constant technology users or if we are addicted social media junkies, all of us could do with what we might call a social reset. Schedule a time either daily or weekly according to circumstances where all smart devices and computerized gadgets are turned off. Disconnect from the internet, give yourself permission to "go missing" for a brief period of time, then use that time to reconnect with friends, family and whomever or whatever it is that makes YOU human. The benefits will be a great reward to whatever it is that we’ll ‘miss’ by not being connected.
The steps are simple enough. The question is how soon do we want to see results. Practice these steps and in no time not only will you find more satisfaction but your house, walls, roof, floor and all, will become a home.
By All About Home 10-10-2017